What is the best way to tell someone they may have dementia according to the signs?
You can tell them they have dementia, but from my experience, I don’t think they can do much about it. It’s just confusing. Those who have dementia are more likely to forget about that. I occasionally disagreed with my father before realizing he had dementia, and I feel terrible about it now. At first, he became highly enraged; I remember one instance when he insisted that my cousin had kidnapped him and then assaulted him.
When I told him that I didn’t think my cousin would do that, he began yelling expletives at me. As the disease progressed, he became increasingly puzzled by my disagreement. He insisted he didn’t have any children, so I (very kindly) showed him my birth certificate. It’s a terrible, terrible disease. My dad died in 2018, and every day of my life, I reflect on my mistakes as his caregiver. However, you don’t know what you don’t know, and the disease progressed so quickly that decisions had to be made almost on an hourly basis. I’m making an effort to move on, but the guilt can be overwhelming at times.